The Right To Die With Dignity

The Criminal Code of Canada states in section 241 that: "Every one who (a) counsels a person to commit suicide, or (b) aids or abets a person to commit suicide, whether suicide ensues or not, is guilty of an indictable offence and liable to imprisonment for a term not exceeding fourteen years." Suicide hasn't been a crime in Canada since 1972 but someone who is disabled from a debilitating disease like ALS or MS is not allowed to assist anyone in suicide. I don't know your position as a reader on this topic. I had not given it any thought until my husband was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease. Rob has had the disease for over 14 years. The disease progresses slowly so the first 5 years don't affect your life that significantly. You notice some decline in movement but over the past 10 years the disease has progressed and now in his 15th year he is confined in his movements. He no longer has the fine motor skills that he once enjoyed. Using the keyboard to manipulate the computer is difficult. He uses a walker to get around and needs assistance with dressing and getting in and out of bed and chairs. It is a big change from being able to do anything you want whenever you want to having to determine if your body will co-operate enough to go out for groceries. Rob says that it is hard to lose abilities to do things that you took for granted. At times he has said that he doesn't want to keep going because his life has changed so much. He gets up to face another day. We both now have an appreciation for someone who suffers even more than Rob with daily living. Until you are living with someone who is suffering from a neurological disorder you do not have a total appreciation for their condition. It is taxing to the person with the disorder and the family or persons who are helping them with daily living. There are periods of depression by the patient and the care givers. There is a feeling of entrapment by the disorder. You are constantly on guard in case the patient needs assistance. In our case Rob has a bell that he keeps near him that he rings when he needs assistance. Twenty-one years ago Sue Rodriguez was suffering from ALS. in 1991, she went to court to get the right to die in an assisted suicide. She said that she had a right to determine how she died. Her request was denied. In 1994, she took her own life with the assistance of an anonymous doctor. A member of the NDP party in Canada who had helped fight her case was with her when she died. In 1998 there was a movie written about her story At The End Of The Day: The Sue Rodrigeuz Story. suerodrigeuz Gloria Taylor also went to court to get permission for assisted suicide. Gloria was 61 years of age when she was diagnosed with ALS. She was told that she would be paralyzed within six month and die within a year. She decided to fight back and was granted the right to ask for doctor assisted suicide when she deemed it necessary. She died unexpectedly in 2012 from an infection. gloria_taylor(15) The famous cosmologist Stephen Hawking has suffered with ALS since he was 21. He agrees with assisted suicide if someone is in pain and the people that assist should not prosecuted. He suffered with pneumonia and was put on life support. His wife was given the choice to switch off the machines but he did not want that. He says that in his line of work have a disability is not a handicap. It is all in the mind. Hawking's advice is to focus on what you can do and not regret what you cannot do. StephenHawking Living on a daily basis with someone that has limited physical capabilities has given me a new perspective on life. Rob has tried working with voice activated devices without success. The tone of his voice is low which is a condition of Parkinson's so the voice activated software does not accurately decipher what he is saying. It pains me to watch him stuck in a chair with his arms glued to the sides. He starts to shake as he concentrates on freeing himself from this position. He has an external keyboard to use with his computer but as of late his fingers get frozen in one position as he tries to type. He has a great attitude about his condition taking it moment by moment but there are days when he is not able to do much beyond sit in his chair. He helps me determine the best way to build business online. We have a family motto - "The Best Is Yet To Come!" I can totally empathize with people going through a debilitating disease needing the right to choose whether they live another day. People put their pets to sleep if they are suffering so why should it be any different for a human. Is it something that I would encourage no but if the person suffering has no quality of life than it definetely needs to be a decision that they should be allowed to make. I like the quote walk a mile in my shoes before you pass judgement on their decisions. You may not agree with their decision but you can be supportive if they are doing it with conviction. walkamileinmyshoes Thank-you for visting this blog and I hope that I have left you with some food for thought. I follow the posts of a successful internet marketer. Today he posted about taking 7 books off of his book shelf twice a week. He allows himself 3 minutes per book to scan through it looking for new knowledge. He calls it Ultra Reading. After he has gone through all seven then he goes for a run outside or to the gym with his mind buzzing. He begins his creative work for the day when he returns to his office. I take a similar approach looking on Google to see what topics are trending and then start to write a blog post around that topic and weaving my personal life into the post if it has some relevance to the topic. Some days it takes me all day to write the post coming back to it as I do other things. Snapshot_20121127_7 (2) Robert and Bethany Jobb Our Motto: "The Best Is Yet To Come!" MTTBbannerad-300x250-blink team-wukarjpgTEAM WUKAR:  A group of people bringing the Ecommerce Revolution to consumers worldwide.

Being Thankful For My Life

In 1879 Thanksgiving was declared a national holiday in Canada and celebrated on a Thursday in November. The date changed several times and in 1957, parliament declared the second Monday of October the official holiday. We just celebrated Thanksgiving in Canada this past weekend. I debated about doing a traditional dinner. I had an idea to spread out the preparation into two days to make it less work on the day I cooked the turkey. The meal was planned for Monday the 13th so on Sunday the 12th I cooked up my sweet potatoes and squash. My mother-in-law taught me to peel the skin off of these vegetables. This is so much easier than digging out the contents from the skin. In the evening I made the pumpkin pie. When Sunday came I just had to shred the bread for the stuffing and mix in the spices. I then stuffed the turkey and put it into the oven. This approach to making dinner was more relaxing. My guests arrived as I was preparing the last few items for the meal. We took the pre-cooked vegetables from the refrigerator and finished preparing them for the table. I even decided to experiment and bought a third vegetable. I have not eaten turnips since I lived at home. I love the ability to ask Google how to prepare something. I found a site with about 3 methods and decided to cut them into french fry style pieces. We tossed them in oil and included diced onion as recommended. We kept turning them so they browned on all sides. They were then put in a bowl and onto the table. It was fun to try cooking something new. I feel that it is very important to be grateful for things in life. Our family is dealing with a member who has Parkinson's disease and at times I must admit that I feel trapped with having to care for them. When it is really strong, I will stop and start writing out the things that I am grateful for in my life. This helps me to refocus my thinking. I try to do this daily but sometimes get distracted from this exercise. I also will watch some music videos because music is very uplifting. Here is a tribute to the rock group Led Zepplin done at the Kennedy Centre that I will watch from time to time to lift my spirits. I hope that you enjoy it too. I look out into the world and see countries who are dealing with terrorists coming into their cities and causing havoc. Their lives are disrupted and many people are killed as the terrorists take over. I cannot truly imagine what life must be like in these places. There are mass executions, abductions and torture. Women are forced into slavery. People leave their homes to get away from the terrorists. It is upsetting to hear of these events which makes my situation pale in comparison. Another tragedy in the world is the ebola crisis in West Africa. It is killing about 7 in every 10 people infected. There is a reduction in new cases for areas hardest hit in early 2014. The disease is spreading in a broader geographic area, including along the border with Ivory Coast  To date their have been 4,447 deaths and 8,914 suspected or confirmed cases. Numbers of cases are expected to rise to 5,000 to 10,000 cases in Liberia, Sierra Leone and Guinea by December 1st. The World Health Organization has a goal to have 70% of the burials done safely and 70% of the people infected receiving treatment. They feel this will curb the spread of the virus. At present there are 1,000 new cases in the past 3-4 weeks which appears that it is under control from earlier in the year. The best way that I can help is to pray for world peace. Some people may not believe in prayer but I believe that is does help. I say thanks for many things throughout my day. Money will arrive just as a bill is due. I am working on my mindset towards money so that it flows to me easily and effortlessly. I have suffered with a belief that I will not have enough. I even said to my husband last night that we are out of money and as I made this statement I stopped myself and said you are not of money. Money always shows up when it is needed and when it does I say "Thank-you" to God or Universe for the arrival of the money when needed to cover a bill. I visuallze in my mind having $50k in my savings account at all times. I walk around the house and remind myself to give thanks for the $50k in my savings account. It is not there but it will be because I am professing it to be so with an attitude of gratitude. I watched a You Tube video quite a while ago from a woman that does tapping. She taps on the energy merdians in her body and affirms that she is receiving and accepting $50k into her life. I started watching this video regularly to train my mind to accept this amount of money into my life. Just search on You Tube for Margaret M. Lynch and you can watch this video. She now has 2 videos on receiving 50k into your life and I will watch both of them some days. There is always something in our lives that we can be thankful for when we stop and reflect. Taking a day out of our lives to break bread with family and friends allows us the opportuniity to express our gratitude for the blessings in our life. I now work from home and am grateful for the people that I have met on Facebook and other social media sites. I have recently connected with a group of people that have formed a team calling themselves WUKAR which stands for Wake Up Kick Ass and Repeat. This is an apt description for my life. I needed to wake up to the fact that I had to change how I viewed money. I am making progress and while I do this I will kick ass on the poverty thinking that I have had for many years. I will keep working on my mindset as it can slip back easily so I have to be surround myself with books,videos and people that are in life where I want to go. At team WUKAR we are promoting an ecommerce revolution that will change how people shop online. There are similar programs out there but we have a global presence and a team of leaders that want is all to succeed. I am so grateful for this team coming into my life to inspire me to be the best me that I can be. team-wukarjpg     Snapshot_20121127_7 (2) Robert and Bethany Jobb
 Our Motto "The Best Is Yet To Come!"

No Excuses – Life With No Limits


I was sitting in the living room with the laptop on my knee, as I often do. My husband Rob was watching something and I heard them talk about a wrestler with no arms or legs. I wasn`t sure that I had heard it right. I googled - `wrestler with no arms or legs expecting to come up with nothing. Much to my surprise I got the name Kyle Maynard. When he was born his parents decided that they would let him figure out how to do things. They never treated him as handicapped so he didn`t see himself that way either. He learned how to feed himself and write. At the age of 11 he decided that he wanted to become a wrestler. His mother contacted the coach of Collins Hill High School about coaching her son. The coach had worked with someone who had lost a leg so quickly said that they could work with her son. She insisted that the coach needed to listen to her explain her son`s condition. He didn`t think that he could do anything for Kyle but told her to bring him in. He saw how serious Kyle was about doing this so he personally coached him. No one had ever won a match that had no upper limbs. For the first year and a half Kyle lost all of his matches. He wanted to quit but his father would not let him. He videotaped his matches and Kyle would have to watch them to review his errors. He then would spend hours in the basement fixing his errors. Kyle`s father said that he fought only well enough to lose. These are words to ponder as that is how many of us approach life. We do enough to get by but not enough to excel. We have some success but sometimes our lack of fear holds us back from unlimited success. It is important to surround yourself with people who are more successful than you. They can inspire you to do more and go farther than you ever have before. Kyle had to retrain his mind when he arrived at a hotel room for a speaking engagement to not just hop on the bed and watch tv. He wanted to go to the hotel gym but it wasn't happening. He started turning on some motivational music in the elevator on the way up to his room. This got him motivated to drop his bags and head for the gym. I can totally relate with not feeling motivated to do something that I should do so I like his approach of listening to something motivating to inspire him to go do what he needs to do . Finding his story has got me motivated to push myself to go for goals that I didn't feel I could reach. Kyle like many of us has suffered with depression. In 2006, he says that he called his mother in the airport on one of his speaking engagement trips. He said that he wanted to quit speaking. He was feeling like a fraud. His mother said that she would support his decision but sounded disappointed. After he rung up the phone he saw two guys looking at him. He went over to talk to them as he always did when he was out. Their meeting changed his life. They were former military police who had suffered major burns from a roadside bomb and ambush in Iraq. They had made a suicide pact lying in hospital beds not looking forward to the rehabilitation process. A week later they saw Kyle on tv  and called it off. In 2012 he hiked Mount Kilimanjaro bear crawling 19,340 feet to the roof of Africa. He wanted to prove that you can overcome any obstacles even with a disability.He spread the ashes of a wounded solider at the top of the mountain. Some American service personnel suffering from shrapnel wounds, post traumatic stress and traumatic brain injury joined him in the climb. He did the climb in 10 days. Kyle now knows his purpose and says that when you know your purpose in life you can go through anything it takes to get there. We all need to find our "why" and once you do Kyle says that there are no good excuses. My husband has Parkinson's disease so I often get caught up with his care or feel drained from being his caregiver. I am thinking of ways to keep myself motivated even when I feel drained to do something to promote myself and my business. I like twitter because you can put out a quick message about yourself, the events of the day.or a motivational quote. team-wukarjpg I have found a group of people who are inspiring me to go farther than I ever have before. They are a group of winners and are eager to help all of their members reach their full potential. The leader Matt Trainer is an awesome SEO marketer. He has helped well known marketers like Frank Kern to greater success. Matt was introduced to a membership program that offers cashback for online purchases. He doesn't like multi level marketing but saw the potential of this program. It is built on offering customers the opportunity to continue shopping at their usual retailers like Home Depot, Best Buy and Walmart but receiving cashback when they shop online. You can even pick up your purchase at your local store. It offers music playlists from your favorite artists, entertainment videos, talk radio stations and a gaming platform. Snapshot_20121127_7 (2) Robert and Bethany Jobb
Our Motto "The Best Is Yet To Come!"

The Bond Between Pets and Their Owners

A study was done to determine what similarities pets have with their pet owners. I grew up in a farming community. We always had a dog as a pet and lots of cats. One cat we named Blackie had many kittens over her lifetime. She lived for over 16 years and raised many many kittens. When I was a toddler we had a large dog. I don't exactly remember the dog but I think it was a black labrador. There is a picture of the dog standing guard with me in a baby buggy. I was told that this dog used to love to ride in the pick up truck with my father. We always had a dog growing up. My younger sister decided that we should have a dog with short legs. Our dogs would run up our long lane way (longer than most families driveways in the city) and get hit by a vehicle passing our farm. My father chose a basset hound. A basset hound is great with kids. They make a great family pet because they are intelligent, easy going, sociable, loving and loyal. These animals love to be a part of the family. Our dog would participate in our family Christmas play. His name was Kelly and he would stand quietly in the midst of the my siblings happy to be part of the action. I think that he held a different position in the play each year. One year he was the donkey carrying Mary who was pregnant with Jesus. Another year he would be one of the wise men. He was always just happy to be in the play. Basset hounds like company which was no problem growing up on the farm. There were always plenty of cats to keep the dog company or sometimes keep him in line. Of course my siblings and I were a few years apart in age so there was always a child to play with too. If he hung around the barn he could be in company with the many cattle that lived there. I was always amazed at their long ears which would drag on the ground. I read that the length helps to hold the scent and as they drag along the ground it helps to stir up the scent.  I remember Kelly getting excited when my mother was cooking. He loved table scraps and knew that my dad or one of us kids would feed him something. He was like a human member of the family not just the family pet. I thought our dog lived the life of Riley so to speak because he had a roof over his head and many people to sneak him people food in addition to his dog food. I was so surprised when I moved to the city and went to a classmates house. His dog  had a coat to wear when going out for walks. I never knew that they made clothing for animals but it is a big market. They even have pet stairs which you can purchase for dogs like Kelly who have short legs. It makes it easier for them to get up onto a bed or into a vehicle. Our dog Kelly was not allowed to be in the bedrooms but he would curl up on the floor beside the couch or a chair depending where everyone was seated. They have done a study of dogs and their owners. They found a surprising physical similarity between a dog and their owners. No the owners did not have the hair of a poodle, the jowls of a bulldog, eyes of a pug or the wrinkles of a Shar-Pei. These are not traits that humans want to be compared to when referring to the similarities between them and their pet. Human Dog Look Alike study Scientists could not quite figure out what the physical connection was between the two. They did some testing showing random pictures of owners and their dogs. Time and again the participants could spot which pet belonged to which owner. They thought that maybe it was a gender with men owning larger breed dogs and women owning toy breeds. Or maybe it was women with long hair were more likely to own dogs with floppy ears and not perky ears. This theory did not prove to be the similarity. They did find that overweight dogs had overweight owners. The first study showed that people could match dogs and their owners just by facial appearance. Even pictures where the owners and dogs were not a match was identified as fake by participants. A second study was done to determine which part of the facial features were the determining factor in matching up pets and their owners.
Here’s how it worked. The researcher presented 502 Japanese undergrads with two test sheets. Each sheet included 20 photo sets of dog-human pairs, showing their faces together side-by-side. To eliminate extraneous factors, the photos were very basic color headshots cropped at the shoulders and shown against a plain white background. Nakajima writes that the portraits were taken earlier at a “dog-lovers’ field festival” and that the pet owners were instructed to look straight at the camera and smile slightly. Presumably these instructions worked for the dogs as well—the photos show them with the same Mona Lisa grins as their masters. These resulting 40 human faces and 40 dog faces were digitally rendered equal in size (11 to 12 millimeters “from the vertex [highest point of the forehead] to the chin”). The photos were then randomly assigned to one of those two test sheets. On one test sheet, the images included a set of 20 real-life dog-owner pairs; the other sheet featured 20 randomly matched pairs. These photo sets included an equal number of female and male human owners. It’s not entirely clear to me why mutts weren’t included (perhaps there was a bit of snobbery at that dog-lovers’ fest), but nonetheless there was still a healthy variety of breeds represented in the portraits, everything from the relatively rare Belgian tervuren to that popular pint-sized terror, the Yorkshire terrier, to papillons and golden retrievers. The judges’ task was simple: “Choose the set of dog-owner pairs that physically resemble each other,” they were told, “Set A or Set B.” Ah, but there was more to it than that. The participants had also been randomly assigned to one of five different "masking" photo conditions.The fundamental difference among these conditions was the way in which the photo sets were presented to the judges on the two sheets:no-mask (in which the participant saw the full unobstructed faces of humans and dogs); eye-mask (the humans’ eyes were covered by black rectangular bars … just think crime-scene photos); mouth-mask (the humans’ mouths were covered in this same way); dog-eye-mask (now it’s the dogs’ eyes that are covered by the creepy black bar); or eye-only (only the thin rectangular slices of the eye regions for both human and dog are shown).
Just as in Nakajima’s earlier study, the people in the no-mask condition—that’s to say, those who saw the full faces of both the dogs and the owners—were strikingly good at sniffing out the fake domestic bonds. It’s rather amazing, actually, to think that being asked to make a forced choice on “physical resemblance” resulted in 49 of the 61 judges (80 percent) selecting the set of images showing the real-life pairs. Those who saw the same photo sets but with the owners’ mouths concealed (mouth-mask) were only slightly less impressive (73 percent correct). By contrast, simply covering the eyes of either the humans or dogs made the judges’ performance fall to statistically chance levels. So it’s all in the eyes, it turns out.
The most striking finding from Nakajima’s experiment comes from the performance of those participants assigned to the eye-only condition. These judges, you’ll recall, were shown just those thin slices of the human and dog eye regions. Nothing else. Yet 40 of these 54 students (74 percent) still chose the set of true pairs. Nakajima was so surprised by their ability to do this by seeing just the eye regions that he tested a new batch of subjects on the eyes-only condition, just to be sure that the findings weren’t some strange fluke. But this fresh group of judges nailed it, too. This time, 42 of the 55 judges (76 percent) picked the image set with the real-life dog-human pairs. It is great that we have such a bond with our pets. I have heard people say that they knew which dog they wanted to take home once they looked them over.  I will now want to check out the eyes of my friends and their dogs to see if I can see the match. Snapshot_20121127_7 (2)
 Robert and Bethany Jobb
Our Motto "The Best Is Yet To Come!"

My Pride And Joy

Twenty-five years ago I gave birth to two beautiful daughters. They have touched my life in ways that I didn't realize was possible. I was very academic but God blessed me with two children who are intellectually challenged. They have been a blessing in my life as their smarts coming from seeing details that I miss. I have been given an opportunity to see there is more to life than book knowledge. When my computer causes me grief one of the girls will come over and calm my frazzled nerves. They will check things out and often find out what needs to be done to get it up and running again. Sometime it is as simple as the cord which is in two parts has separated. If I am moving around with the laptop I sometimes don't realize what has happened. The girls have a gift of noticing when something has changed. They can quickly spot when they walk into a room if something has been moved. There are many times when we are watching a movie that they will make a comment about how they recognize an actor or actress from another movie. They may not remember the name of the movie but after describing the movie we will check and sure enough they were in the other movie. They also have a knack of seeing the good in people. I have never heard them speak ill of anyone. They understand that people have faults and believe that we all have good inside of us. I believe that God brings people into our lives to teach us no matter what their intellectual level. I was a very serious child and didn't know how to play with our children of my own age. My mother had to encourage me to play with the kids as I would hang out with my mother and their parents. My daughters have helped me be a child again. I love showing excitement when we have something special planned. We were invited to lunch where one of the daughters works part-time cleaning at a restaurant. She was so proud that we came for lunch. Her boss was very generous giving us coupons to return for another meal. He went above and beyond by giving both daughters a gift certificate for Walmart. It was a surprise that my other daughter was given a gift even though she didn't work at the restaurant. It is actions like these that make me believe in human kindness. Both daughters were treated equally. How many acts of kindness do you do in a day, a week or a month? I think that we all get caught up in our own lives that we forget how important it is to show kindness to each other. kindness-quote-life-quotes-pictures-sayings-pics I keep a gratitude journal and there are entries in it reflecting acts of kindness. I have gone through some financial challenges and have been allowed to create payment plans that are flexible. I have even had to renegotiate the payment schedule when the money has not arrived when expected. How flexible are you with people when circumstances require a change in plans? The girls are also good at reminding me about dental or medical appointments. They will keep the reminder card in their possession to be sure that it doesn't get lost. If a bill payment is due at a certain time they will check with me to see if I have paid it or am going to pay it. Their father has Parkinson's so they are constantly checking to be sure that he is taking his medication throughout the day. When a family member or friend is going through some health challenges they will make sure that I connect with them to get an update on the situation. They both have a very caring attitude toward others. They have squabbles between each other but is very few and far between. As a family we help a friend and her daughter taking them grocery shopping and running other errands when needed. One of the girls will stay with the daughter while I go out with my friend to run errands. They have a shitzu and the girls show it lots of love when they are there. They don't have a mean bone in their body. The girls understand that it takes money to live. They have never demanded to own the latest toy or gadget. They wanted an ipad for many years and finally got one as a Christmas gift last year. They go everywhere with these ipads so they have been money well spent. I remember getting gifts and giving gifts that were used briefly and then collected dust. They always enjoy receiving dvds for movies and enjoy collecting dvds for television programs. Even though Netflix has a lot of programming they still enjoy having it in digital format. It was a requirement that they learn the bus system. When they were in grade 10 I started taking the city bus to school with them. Their classmates would ask me if I was going to stay for the day. I would then take the bus back to school in the afternoon and we would travel back home. After a few days they were able to do it on their own. This gave them a big boost in their self confidence. They can now take different buses around the city to classes they attend. They have a daily routine which they follow. They will vary it on a weekend but during the week stick to it fairly closely. I was just reading an email from an internet marketer, Matt Lloyd. He was saying that where many of us fail is that we aren't consistent with our efforts. We start a project with eagerness but we don't keep at it through the long term. Matt says that it is not because we don't know how. Is it because we lose interest? I know for myself if I don't get the results that I am expecting quickly I doubt my ability to be successful. I remember growing up with the term "Rome wasn't built in a day." It takes consistent effort to get results which is something I have to remind myself sometimes on a daily basis. My girls show me every day that doing the little things well is just as important as doing big things. I am forever grateful to my husband Rob for encouraging me to be a mom. They are my pride and joy!   Snapshot_20121127_7 (2) Robert and Bethany Jobb Our Motto; "The Best Is Yet To Come!"   MTTBbannerad-300x250-blink